I’m pleased to report that male chauvinism is alive and well in Russia, a fact that was brought home to me recently at a gathering of some of HRH’s military school buddies.
Readers of this blog will remember Borya, who hails from the polar naval base of Zapolyarniy and is Russia’s poster child for male chauvinism. His annual visit to Moscow is usually bang in sync with the pukh, that delightful infestation of poplar spores that makes early summer a veritable nightmare.
This year, however, Borya’s visit came early. It seems that veteran menace of NATO’s right flank has plans to migrate south…permanently, which seems wildly rash, if you ask me (and no one ever, ever does, and certainly not Borya) given The Current Situation in the Ukraine. But Borya is job-hunting (which is truly scary) and like all serious job hunters, he’s kick starting his search with a reunion of his inner circle of military school buddies.
HRH got in touch with Gena Varyenkov, a particularly lugubrious number who used to be in charge of a casino, until they outlawed casinos, and is now busy annexing Crimea as a Duma Deputy (of course he is). With Ilya Potapov inconveniently away it was to be a boys-only evening. Which is a blessing, really. Gena has been married twice, the first time to a rather successful Mary Kay saleswoman who went mad, and then to his (much younger – no one ever faulted Gena with excessive originality) secretary. Borya has been married three or four times, and I’ve met at least two of his wives on their way back from the sanatoria in Sochi. They never open their mouths except to ask me to turn off the air conditioning. But for his job-hunting trip to Moscow, Borya had wisely elected to fly, or rather train, solo. HRH got in two cases of beer and steadied himself for a long night of male bonding.
Of course, this involved fish. With Borya, it always involves fish, and this time it was smelts or “korushki” which he collected packed in a Styrofoam box filled with ice from his opposite number in St. Petersburg as he was changing trains to Moscow. It seemed like a lot of trouble to go to just for some rather pedestrian fish.
“They sell them at the market,” I said to HRH as Borya was bathing, “as much as you like – and dirt cheap too.”
“Shhhhh…” said HRH. “These are special smelts.”
“That’s like, an oxymoron,” I said. “Smelts are very run of the mill.”
“Just be sure to get some oil while you are out,” HRH said, changing the subject, “and a proper frying pan. Gena says our frying pans aren’t the right sort.”
I’m all about upholding what they call on Game of Thrones “the courtesies” of hospitality (Borya, after all, has eaten a lot of my meat and mead) so I’m willing to pretend that smelts are something special; but I am not about to let Gena Varyenkov suggest that my kitchen kit is sub standard. Not by a long shot.
“You know, you shouldn’t fry smelts in a frying pan, you know,” I said in my bossiest, food blogger-y manner. “There isn’t enough depth. What you want is a deep pot, and that also helps a lot with the splatter factor.” The last time Borya had arrived with some fish to fry, we had to get a brigade of 16 Tadzhiks in to deep clean the entire apartment.
“Whatever,” said HRH and left for another 17-hour day at the office.
I browsed through some You-Tube videos on the finer art of smelt-frying, pleased to see that almost everyone used my preferred deep pot/slotted spoon method. Of course they did. On the advice of one particularly savvy You-Tuber, I went to a certain amount of trouble to find refined grape seed oil (no mean feat in Moscow) which the You-Tuber explained has a higher smoke point than the rot gut unrefined sunflower oil they sell at Perekrestok, as well as a much cleaner taste. I helpfully put those out on the counter, together with several jealously-hoarded, pristine zip-lock bags for dredging and some corn flower, which a You-Tuber form Tallahassee said made “…the best goddamn fried smelts in the en-tire South.”
Borya, however, looked askance at the mise en place and sucked some air through his teeth.
“This won’t work,” he said sliding the bottles of unrefined grape seed oil to one side.
“It’s not olive oil,” I said, “it’s grape seed oil, it has a higher –“
Borya sucked some air through his teeth and looked to HRH for support.
I fetched some unrefined sunflower oil from the pantry and hoped it was rancid.
“Now I need some salt,” said Borya.
“What kind of salt?” I taunted, “ I have rock salt, kosher salt, black finishing salt, pink Nepalese salt, and rosemary-infused salt.”
“I need some salt,” said Borya to HRH. HRH went into the pantry, which is about as familiar to him as North Korea.
“Try using this pot,” I suggested, unhooking a deep and wide stew pot from the overhead rack, while Gena ducked, expecting all of the pots to come crashing down on his head. (Someday, Gena…someday soon.)
Borya sucked in some more air between his teeth and looked pointedly at HRH, who went back to North Korea for the unacceptable frying pans.
Borya then squinted at the corn flour canister in a manner that suggested it might contain anthrax.
“It’s corn flour,” I said encouragingly, holding up the zip-lock bag. Not for nothing was I the mom who led the renegade downtown Moscow Girl Scout troop to win their cooking badges, “ and, see, this is perfect for dredging the fish.”
Gena removed the corn flour from Borya’s hands.
“Little one,” he said to me in one of those annoyingly condescending voices Russians use, “this won’t work. We need our Soviet flour.”
I wish Gena Varyenkov, who once offered me a glass of wine from the Island of Burgundy, would refrain from calling me “Little One.” I’m taller than him, I’m older than him, and I’m a lot smarter than he is. And, though he’d never credit this, I’m a much better cook than he is.
With Russian men, as with so many other things, you have to know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away, and know when to run. I decided to run. I called Tancy.
“Meet me at Shake Shack on the Arbat,” I said, “My home has been invaded by alpha male Russians.”
“That’s a plan,” she said stalwartly.
There is very little a Shake Shack burger, a custard shake, and some good girl time can’t put right
Except for a flour-covered kitchen, 2 ruined frying pans and $37 worth of pink Nepalese salt, now completely infused with eau de smelt.
Game, set, and match to Borya and Gena.
Has your kitchen ever been invaded by hostile aliens? Do you retreat to Shake Shack or do you stay and fight? Have you ever fried smelts, and if so, did you do it in a deep pot or a shallow frying pan? I would LOVE to know, so hit the comment button below!
Lenin Lives Next Door
Readers, I’m thrilled to report that sales of Lenin Lives Next Door: Marriage, Martinis, and Mayhem in Moscow continue to be brisk and the reviews have been phenomenal! Here is just a sample of what bloggers, pundits, readers, and reviewers had to say about this hilarious look at life in the world’s largest country:
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“You should imagine Russian history,” suggests American writer and veteran expatriate, Jennifer Eremeeva, “on a huge, 3D IMAX screen, surround sound booming with a jumbo bucket of popcorn in your lap and huge blue drink at your side.” Eremeeva should know: she became fascinated with Russian history at the age of thirteen, when she plucked a copy of Robert Massie’s Nicholas and Alexandra off the school library shelves. “And I don’t think it is over the top to say that my life was set on a new course.”
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Fans of Eremeeva’s blogs, columns, and her full-length book, Lenin Lives Next Door: Marriage, Martinis, and Mayhem in Moscoware sure to enjoy this further exploration of Russia’s soft and hilarious underbelly. For readers embarking on a visit to Russia or an exploration of the country’s rich literature and culture, Have Personality Disorder, Will Rule Russia offers a succinct, informative, and highly entertaining introduction to the country’s complex and expansive history.
you crack me up! Thanks for the mood to start my Friday. ))
Thank you Linda! hope your weekend was an enjoyable one!
Let’s make fried smelts YOUR WAY when you return. Miss you!
That is a date, my sweet Lorraine! How about lobsta rolls in E’hampton???
Hostile aliens? Yes – once but was memorable!
I stayed and fought – eventually, in time, losing the alient in space! Why do we put up with these aliens when we’re younger??
Never fried smelts but would definitely use a deep pot for all the “right” reasons.
Thanks so much for sharing – loved it – laughed and laughed and needed it!
Hostile aliens? – yes
I stayed and fought – eventually, in time, losing the alien in space. Why do we put up with these aliens when we’re younger?
Never fried smelts but would definitely use a deep pot for all the “right” reasons.
Thanks so much for sharing – loved it – laughed and laughed and needed it.
I would love to know that story, Virginia! And I think there needs to be a support group with a safe house!
I love your blog! Actually, I am a lousy cook and my husband is a great cook. So, I am the one who often gets kicked out of the kitchen. Let’s hear it for Canadian men. Generally they know their way around the kitchen and the rest of the house when it comes to the domestic arts. That is, this generation does. As for their fathers, that’s another story!