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By July 4, 2011June 1st, 2017Uncategorized

Trying to get some Face Time with HRH


I taped a New Yorker cartoon to my Handsome Russian Husband’s (HRH) side of the mirror the other day.  The cartoon depicted a classic sophisticated couple seated in a well-appointed living room.  The caption read “You’d know that about me if you followed me on Twitter.”  This was my somewhat desperate attempt to send to two subtle messages his way:  1.) I’d like him to once and a while read my blog (which I know he never ever does because I’ve deliberately planted stuff in there, which would outrage him if he did) and 2.) I’d actually like to see more of him in general since he works from 7 a.m. to 11 pm at his Big Important Job at the Difficult Start-Up in An Important Industry.

Twitter has been on HRH’s mind lately.  He doesn’t follow anyone on Twitter, he has no friends on Facebook, and he deeply regrets his one foray on to the Russian version of “” (which is responsible for one in four marriages breaking up in Russia) since it clogs up his email and he gets inundated with requests for jobs at The Difficult Start-Up from people he hasn’t seen since 5th Grade.   He thinks Tumblrs are for beer at the end of a long hard day, and Hoot Suite is something owls do.  In the Social Networking terms, he’s North Korea.

Twitter, though, is something he thinks may be in his future.

“You have to teach me to Tveeter,” he remarked one evening.

“Tweet,” I corrected.

“What?” he asked.

“I Tweet, you tweet, he/she tweets,” I conjugated.

“I don’t Tveeter,” he said, ignoring me.  “You have to teach me.”

“Why do you want to tweet?” I asked.  HRH’s Difficult Start Up at the Important Industry doesn’t seem to lend itself to being buzzed.  Quite the opposite.

“I’m getting an iPad,” HRH explained, “So I have to Tveeter, right?”

“That is the outside of enough!” I fumed.  I yearn for an iPad, and I resist purchasing one with ever fiber of my being.  Tool, not toy, I told Velvet, our 13-year-old who feels her life will be ruined until we let her upgrade her current iPhone3 to an iPhone 4.  “What will you do with an iPad?” I yelled.  “You don’t even know how to Google!”

“I am Russian.” Said HRH haughtily.  “I Yandex.”

“But you don’t need to tweet,” I argued.

“I think I do,” said HRH, “Dmitry Medvedev has an iPad…and he tweets.”

The fog cleared.  For the last six months or so, President Medvedev has been pictured at Cabinet Minister pow wows tenderly caressing his tablet and gently scrolling through his power point presentations on his iPad, while all the Soviet era Ministers scribble in their cheesy leatherette A5 notebooks with things like Gazprom embossed on them.  You could follow one role model (young, hip, liberal) or the other (old school, conservative, safe.)  Putin, it occurred to me, never writes anything down, and certainly didn’t toggle or scroll any device when he spoke publically.

“Yes,” I said, “Medvedev does, though he still refuses to follow me, even though I follow him.  But an iPad is one thing, and Twitter is a completely different thing.  The two things are mutually exclusive.”

“Are you sure?” asked HRH.  “What is Tveeter anyway?”

“It’s like this,” I explained, “You condense something you want to say into 140 characters and you send it out to your followers.”

“What’s a character?” asked HRH.

“And then,” I said, “you can build your follower group by adding hashtags to keywords, and everyone who is following that hashtag will see your tweet.

“I still don’t get it,” said HRH “Can’t I just send an email?”

We continued in this vein for some time, covering trending, re-tweets, following Friday and other salient aspects of Twitter.  HRH said the whole thing sounded like a huge waste of time.

“Darling,” I finally said, exasperated, “I don’t think you are a natural born Tweeter.  Your primary method of communication is to yell at people on your mobile phone.  With Twitter, you need to have followers.  Where are you going to get followers, anyway?  From that Red Director crowd, you hang out with?”

HRH considered this.

“I have subordinates,” he argued.

“Would they follow you?” I asked.

“They’d better!” he said.

“So you don’t need to Tweet,” I finished with a flourish, “but if you got me an iPad as well, we could FaceTime while you are at work.”

“I told you,” HRH said angrily, “I’m not going on that site again. It’s responsible for one in four break up of marriages in Russia.”

“Yes,” I said, “but there’s an app for that.”

This piece first appeared in The Washington Post on June 29, 2011.

The cartoon pictured above was pulled down off the bathroom wall after I ripped it out of The New Yorker where it first appeared.  Obviously, a little water logged.

Hey Readers!

Do you have an iPad?  do you love it?  What do you use your iPad for?  Tool or Toy?  I want to know!  Hit the comment button and leave some ideas!


  • Kate Herbert says:

    This is so brilliant, Jennifer. Hope you’re well and happy. kate:

  • kevins2 says:

    Great post Jennifer. I like the idea that one’s subordinates should be obliged to follow one’s tweets! Yes iPad … Writing you on mine now. Sooooo much faster than my fully loaded mac pro. Also a great social instrument… Easily passed and shared and good for shopping online while pretending to watch Netflix with the significant other!

  • Nick says:

    I’m planning to get an iPad 2 ) To me it’s very useful toy and a pleasant tool )))

  • Laura says:

    Hi Jennifer!
    Wonderful post!
    Dave Barry has female competition!
    I too am not a natural-born Tveeterer and understand HRH’s combination of desire and confusion as I once felt it myself.
    Take care – one of our fireworks tonight will be in honor of all the expats living in Mother Russia.

  • Mark says:

    I’m with HRH – it sounds like a huge waste of time to me, too. I’m not on Facebook or Twitter, and somehow the sun continues to come up each morning. Besides, if he’s busy tveeting, you’ll see him even less.

  • Carey says:

    This was great! I love the part about his subs better follow him.LOL
    On the iPad my FAV is Pandora. would you be able to hear all your favorite music in Russia on your iPad? Any lately its been Dropbox. SO I guess I do a mix of work and pleasure.

  • Marilyn says:

    And now Obama is tweeting on Twitter!!

  • Ella says:


  • Hi! Found you from the Mommy Bloggers page on Facebook! Great post. And YES I have an iPad and love it like a part of the family. I do just about everything on it. I truly think they should be issued to every high school graduate upon completion – they are THAT awesome. I agree with your daughter though – I am just as in love with my iPhone4. 🙂

  • Ruth says:

    Yes I just got an Ipad2 for my hubby for Father’s Day, and i can’t seem to keep my hands off of it. As much as I dislike how everyone follows Apple like it’s a cult, it is convenient. I like to look use it in the kitchen trying new recipes or justs surfing the web in any room of the house.

  • Share says:

    My husband refuses to read my blog too!
    Hilarious Post! Thanks!

  • Hi…I feel like I shuold introduce myself. I found your blog as a link on the New England Bloggers and I have to tell you something…I’m Russian from Moscow, RU and my huband and all of his family are from Northampton, MA! Small world? YES! Awesome coincidence? Heck YES. I am also dying laughing at the post because, thankfully, my husband DOES read my blog from time to time but I cannot tell you how often I’ve said, “You’d know that about me if you read my blog last night”. LOL Also, both of my parents are on odnoclassniki and they’re obsessed yet I can’t seem to get them to check out Facebook. UGH 🙂

  • sneige says:

    Tveeter 😀 roflmao this was the finishing touch that made me burst into hysterical laughter 😀
    How refreshing it is to read your blog! 🙂
    Sorry I couldn’t speak to you more at FBC!

  • Sarah says:

    Very funny post! Yes I have an iPad and I just LOVE it. It might be the single best thing I ever bought for myself. Well, perhaps my wedding ring…?! And yes I do tveet on tveeterrr too. And my Handsome Russian Husband feigned disinterest until I turned around and found out he’d bought himself an iPad2. Tsk – typical!

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